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Are there signs?<\/strong><\/p>\nMark points out that suicidal ideation sprouts from some level of depression or a mood disorder, and that suicide \u2013 whether attempted or successful \u2013 indicates a genuine sense of hopelessness.<\/p>\n
\u201cUnfortunately, there are not always clear signs, especially in teens who are high functioning and good at sports, performing well academically, popular in their friend group and so on. This makes it easier for them to mask their true mental state, which they may do to live up to that which they believe is expected of them,\u201d he says.<\/p>\n
Stressful situations<\/strong><\/p>\n Mark notes that there are certain instances in which teenagers can become so caught up that they are not able to take a step back and regain perspective without some help. \u201cThis includes common scenarios, some of which are near impossible to avoid, such as exam pressures and relationship issues. Others may be less apparent such as online bullying or blackmail over compromising photographs they may have shared. The digital environment can be extremely threatening to your child\u2019s mental health and this is an area that needs a lot of discussion.<\/p>\n Significant changes<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cAny significant change in behaviour can be a warning sign. Life as a parent is understandably very busy and it can be easy to miss a signal, so it is important to have a sense of what is happening in your teen\u2019s daily life. If you have a child who is usually very active and social but becomes withdrawn, or a child who has always been a home body but now seems to be looking for reasons to stay away, keep a watchful eye. Sudden outbursts of anger and frustration and changes in daily habits can also point to emotional difficulty.<\/p>\n Speaking with finality<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cSometimes people having suicidal thoughts will do and say things that can indicate plans to end their life. This may come out in careless language, for example, saying \u2018You won\u2019t have to deal with me much longer\u2019 or perhaps \u2018Maybe we\u2019ll meet again one day\u2019 to a close friend. Such statements are sometimes made on social media, which is a cry for help that must be taken seriously.<\/p>\n Let them know you are there<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cWhen our children are born we are 100 per cent \u00a0responsible for them and it remains like that for many years. In the case of teens,\u00a0it is now a transitionary phase where it is natural for them to become more independent and parents need to shift into a more supportive role as teens start learning how to be accountable for their own actions. It is not easy to know when to let go, and if you see problematic behaviour it\u2019s even harder. No matter what phase you are in with your teen, let your presence in their life be known. If they push you away, don\u2019t be put off. They need to know that you are around and that you are there for them.\u201d<\/p>\n According to Mark, parents often have a sense that something is off even if it is not clear what the issue is and in these moments it is important to sit down together and have a chat.<\/p>\n Watch your reactions<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cYour child needs to know they can come to you with a problem, no matter how terrible it may appear to them at the time. This means being measured in your responses, which is not always easy when dealing with the emotionally charged and sometimes chaotic world of teenagers.<\/p>\n \u201cHowever, if you tell your child that they can always come to you with a problem and then immediately react with anger or disappointment when they do approach you with something difficult, this can push them away and create distrust. That is not to say that there should be no consequences to their actions, but they need to feel they can be honest and confide in you.<\/p>\n \u201cUltimately you want your child to feel that they can talk to you when they are facing a seemingly insurmountable problem and for them to know that help is always available. Open conversation is your opportunity to reinforce that message.<\/p>\n \u201cIf you know or suspect that your child is having suicidal thoughts, seek professional help. There is always another option and while they might not be able to see it now, there is a way through,\u201d concludes Mark.<\/p>\n Details: akeso.co.za.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The thought of one\u2019s child taking his or her own life is horrifying to any parent, but shining a light on this issue could result in a potentially lifesaving conversation. During the tricky teen years, and in a world with extreme academic pressure, online bullying and other social challenges, teenagers will be far better equipped […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":24,"featured_media":31565,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[21,51],"tags":[8879,8878,8880,8877,8876,196],"class_list":{"0":"post-31563","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-kids","8":"category-lifestyle","9":"tag-clinical-psychologist","10":"tag-mark-de-la-rey","11":"tag-netcare","12":"tag-suicide","13":"tag-teen-suicide","14":"tag-teens"},"yoast_head":"\n