Ballito-based mom, Amy Pringle, shares the highs, lows and invaluable lessons of raising her youngest son, Matthew, who was diagnosed with autism at the age of four.
Amy Pringle is a stay-at-home mom. She and her husband, Richard, who runs his own engineering business, have two sons: James and Matthew. Matthew, their youngest, is autistic. Amy describes him as a typical little boy with a wicked sense of humour, a social nature and a deeply caring personality. He was diagnosed by a paediatric neurologist after experiencing colic, reflux and other early-life health challenges.
“Once you look past the autism,” Amy says, “you see a sensitive and loving child who just wants to be included.”
Receiving Matthew’s diagnosis was, for Amy, almost a relief. Having grown up with a brother who has cerebral palsy, she approached the news practically, viewing it as a starting point for planning and supporting Matthew’s needs.
Daily life and challenges
Parenting Matthew comes with unique challenges. Amy reflects on the differences between raising Matthew and her neurotypical older son, James. “Matthew will never reach certain milestones that other children his age do,” she says. “Even simple things like going to a movie or on holiday can be a struggle.”
She explains the social challenges of autism: “There’s no filter. Despite explaining what’s appropriate, we sometimes find ourselves in very awkward situations.”
Mental resilience is crucial. Amy says, “Burnout is real. You have to be strong for your child while managing their social struggles and regulation. Learning to anticipate and navigate triggers is essential, for both Matthew and the family.”
Unexpected rewards
Despite the hardships, Amy highlights the joy in celebrating small achievements.
“The little victories – like learning to blow his nose, completing a spelling or maths task on his own – are huge milestones for Matthew.”
She also shares pride in James, who has developed empathy and resilience through supporting his brother.
Support and coping
Support has been a game-changer. Amy credits Matthew’s grandparents for their love and guidance, her faith in God for strength and a circle of understanding friends who accept both her child and his quirks. She emphasises the importance of the right school and therapists.
“Teachers and therapists like the team at Edu360, who are compassionate, patient and dedicated are your ride or die. They make an immeasurable difference.”
Joy and growth
The moments that bring Amy the most joy are often simple: Matthew’s excitement watching a rugby game, meeting players or achieving something small for the first time. Through this journey, Amy has also observed the best and worst of human nature – from strangers’ judgement to teachers’ unwavering care.
Advice and perspective
To parents starting out with a special needs child, Amy says:
· Don’t fear the diagnosis. Knowledge is power.
· Find your people – therapists, teachers, friends and family who support and understand you.
· Early intervention is key. Trust your instincts and seek help as soon as possible.
Amy hopes people will understand that children with autism are trying their best: “Be kind. Be patient. Our children may look ‘normal’, but they navigate the world differently. Step back, try to understand and teach your children that different does not mean less.”
